So on Family Day (February 18) we took some family photo’s but I only posted the ones of the kids. So here’s a couple of the family ... nothing special, but at least we’re all looking at the camera and at least Matthew’s not crying (as he did on our first attempt).
With a new minister coming the church is putting together an album (can you imagine the size of that) for the family in order to help them to get to know the members. So we are each suppose to include a family photo or something of that assort to introduce our family. This is/was a difficult task for us. On our wall hangs recent family photos, taken only days before James went into hospital. Although we realize James is no longer here, he is still very much part of our family and to exclude him in a family pictures is like excluding him from our memory. I realize that is not truly how it is, but that is how it feels. On the other hand, we realize that our new minister is meeting us as the family we are now, and that means our family photo is outdated. If our photo was outdated because of a new baby in the family it would be no big deal to run off to a photo studio and have an updated picture taken. Somehow I could not bring myself to do this, it was like we were officially taking James out of the picture/family. So this is how we ended up doing family photos on Family Day. It just seemed easier to take some snap-shots- making it less formal and less official that this is truly our complete family now.
As the photo’s daily run across my computer screen I have slowly adjusted to them as just another photo. As long as they are on the computer and are not hanging on the wall making things more official then it doesn’t seem so bad. On the day I took the photo’s I could not bring myself to post them, but I suppose each change takes time to be accepted, one step at a time ... eventually I will also have to change the photos on the wall, but for now I am enjoying things just the way they are.
So which one should I use? I favour the top one, but we took these bottom ones because we felt we were sitting too far apart on that one. None of them turned out great, at least one of us just doesn't look right on each ... ah well, the joys of family pictures. I better just get my butt in gear and print one so I can get my scrapbook page done.